Mantra #8: Do the Hunt

Every year for Easter, my in-laws do a color coded egg hunt for their grandchildren.

Grandma fills eggs with candy and cash. Papa and uncles hide the eggs in age-appropriate spots in our backyard.

It’s 5 minutes of (somewhat) controlled chaos.

And. It’s. Awesome.

This year, my 19-yr-old college freshman didn’t tell Grandma to do eggs for him. He also didn’t tell her not to.

She did eggs for him. And he was thrilled.

In a culture that is constantly pushing us to grow up, I love that my sons are hanging on to joy. (The 17-yr old did it, too.)

I love that they know how to have fun and aren’t afraid of looking a little silly while doing it.

Which brings me to Mantra #8 in the 50 Mantras for turning 50 series:

๐˜ผ๐™ก๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฎ๐™จ ๐™™๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™ฉ.

๐Ÿฃ Maybe “the egg” is a certificate you’ve wanted to earn, a new software program you’re trying to master, or a hobby you want to re-start (cough, cough).

๐ŸชบMaybe the hunt is a promotion, a raise, or a project you want to lead.

You will never find the eggs if you’re not willing to go looking.

๐Ÿง™๐Ÿผโ€โ™‚๏ธDon’t count yourself out because you’re too old (or too young).

๐ŸฐDon’t miss out on the fun because you’re afraid of looking silly.

Mantra #7: Own Your Accomplishments

“What would 2014 you think of you now?”

This is the question that Amy Poehler recently asked Quinta Brunson on Amy’s podcast, “Good Hang with Amy Poehler.”

Brunson’s answer is a powerful lesson in owning our accomplishments with confidence and not demuring to others’ expectations that we stay small.

She said:
“I think 2014 me would be like, ‘Exactly. Period.’ Because I was a very determined, knew-where-I-was-going girl. I do not like to do that thing where people pretend like, ‘I had no idea this could happen to me!’ Like, no. I made every single move in my life so this could happen to me.”

So, with a nod to Quinta, this is Mantra #7 in my 50 Mantras series:

“๐™Š๐™ฌ๐™ฃ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™–๐™˜๐™˜๐™ค๐™ข๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™ž๐™จ๐™๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™จ. ๐˜ฟ๐™ค๐™ฃ’๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ค๐™œ๐™ž๐™ฏ๐™š ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ข.”

I highly recommend that you watch the whole interview, and especially this clip. Quinta is so matter-of-fact in her answer, there’s no doubt that it’s true.

You ๐™ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฌ that she worked for everything she has achieved. And, you are rooting for her because she’s not boastful or gross about it.

When times are hard- like now- it’s easy to feel needy. Like everyone else is in on a secret and you’re not.

But what if you flipped your approach and brought Quinta-level confidence to your life?

You didn’t get to where you are by accident. You worked for it.

You did it before and you can do it again.

You’re not looking for a hand-out or an exception. You’re looking for an opportunity.

Share your accomplishments clearly and without apology. See what happens.

Mantra #5: There’s Nothing New Under the Sun

Growing up, my mom was always saying, “There’s nothing new under the sun.”

I have visceral memories of being annoyed by that. I can feel my eyes rolling even now.

What does that even mean?

My 17-year old son hates it when I ask questions. I’m just trying to get information, I say. He experiences them as an inquisition. It’s an ongoing battle.

Part of turning 50 has involved nesting and purging. I don’t want the boys to have mountains of my old sh** to sort through some day.

In that process, I found one of my childhood journals. It’s totally 80s. The Sanrio characters, “Little Twin Stars” are on the front and the pages are filled with my (completely justified) ramblings, jumping from 1984 to 1988.

Lo and behold, at the end of one of my entries, teen Monica wrote:

“When I came home from the movies, my mom kept asking me all these stupid questions. I can’t stand it when she does that!!!”

Turns out she was right.

There’s nothing new under the sun.

Teenagers hate questions.

๐™’๐™๐™ค๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™จ!

Sorry, Mom.

And sorry, kid!